Men who belittle and harasses women are a sentient kind of lice which needs to be ruthlessly eradicated. Part of the problem is men who revel in their obnoxiousness – avoid them and buy popcorn so you can enjoy watching their inevitable humiliating fall from grace, but another part of the problem (more insidious) are the “good guys” who THINK they are NOT mansplainers. And what to do with them?

Simple.

Go to one of those on-line survey sites and set up a little quiz, send the link to all women in their chain of command (with assurances that you won’t tell him who you sent the link to and that there is no way he can figure out who wrote what). Print results and hand them over to him.

Sample quiz:

*X thinks he is not troll mansplainer because he

• has a daughter
• has a wife
• once voted for a female candidate
• once watched a movie with a lead female character
• doesn’t call his female subordinates “honey”

*How often does X mansplain:

• rarely
• occasionally (never or once per meeting/ time we interact for more than a few minutes)
• usually (2 or 3 times in every meeting/ time we interact for more than a few minutes)
• always (several times in every meeting/ time we interact for more than a few minutes)

*X’s mansplain pattern is (check all that apply)

• interrupt
• talk as if I know about issue when it’s clear I don’t
• talk as if I know about issue when a person with more experience is at the table/ in the room
• offer senseless rebuttals and/ or make belittling statements when a woman speaks
• repeat/ praise a man’s suggestion that a woman said first, but I ignored the idea when she said it
• try to force women to do (including eating/ drinking or not eating/ drinking) something they are telling me they don’t want to do

*How should X change? (check all that apply)

• stop interrupting women
• learn how to say “Well, X is here and she’s an expert, let’s ask her”
• read ONLY books by women for three months and ONLY discuss these books with other men
• when a woman says, “I don’t want to,” say “OK” (not “OK, that’s fine” as if you are giving her PERMISSION to do as she likes)
• read https://mansplained.tumblr.com/
• read https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18528190-men-explain-things-to-me
• retire and go live in a cave until he is ready to face the fact that women are equal to him in all ways, especially their right to decide how to live their lives